kI rwb iewk qoN vwD hn ?
- gurÈrn isMG ksyl
 

sfzy Dfrimk asQfnf ivwc jd iksy lVky lVkI dI ÈfdI huMdI hY qF Aus smyN ardfs ivwc qkrIbn bhuqy BfeI jI ieh gwl afKdy hn ik ies joVI dy ‘DuroN sMjog’ ilKy hoey sn. ieh hI gwl bhuigxqI iswKF kolo vI afm hI suxI jFdI hY. Ërf vIcfrIey ! iswK Drm anusfr qF rwb (akfl purK) iek hI hY, ‘Ã’ . jykr rwb iek hI hY, qF iPr ieh kyvyN ho skdf hY ik Auh iswKF dy ivafh vfsqy qF iek afdmI qy iek aOrq ƒ hI joVf bxfvy pr hornf Drmf vfrI AusdI soc hor hovy. rwb vfsqy qF sfry iensfn brfbr hn iPr joVy Auh lfgy-lfgy rihMdy lokF dy hI ikAuN bxfAudf hY ? kI ieh sfzy Drm dy bxy TykydfrF vwloN kIqf jFdf pRcfr gurmiq anusfr vI hY ? kI asIN vfikaf hI BfeI jI vwloN ardfs smyN jF hornf lokF vwloN afKI jFdI ies gwl `qy aml vI krdy hF ? kI BfeI jI Éud vI ies gwl qy XkIn krdy hn ? ies bfry kuJ ivcfr krdy hF .
iksy df iliKaf iek lyK pVH irhf sF . Aus ivwc Auh srdfr sfihb pihlF qF ieh ilKdy hn, ik AuNJ qF ieh mnOq hY ik joVIaF asmfnf ivwc bxdIaF hn; iPr awgy ilKdy hn, pihlF ÈfdIaF ivcoly krvfAuNdy sn qy keI cMgy vfikP pRvfr afps ivwc vI irÈqy qih kr lYNdy sn; iPr ilKdy hn, hux jmfnf bdl igaf hY awj kuVI muMzf afp hI irÈqf qih kr lYNdy hn afidk. ies lyK ivwc lyKk, iek pfsy qF ieh mMndf hY ik sMjog rwb bxfAuNdf hY; dUjy pfsy ivcoly rfhIN mMndf hY; muMzy kuVI dy afpy sMjog bxfAux dI gwl vI mMndf hY. hux ivcfrn vflI gwl ieh hY ik jykr rwb ny lVky lVkI dy ivafh dy sMjog bxfey sn qF iPr ivcoly ny jF Éud lVky lVkI ny ikvyN afpxI mrjI dy sMjog bxf ley ? iPr qF iksy hor nfl ÈfdI ho hI nhIN skdI sI . lyKk, rwb vfilaF sMjogF ƒ vI mMnI jFdf qy ivcoilaf dy bxfey sMjogF ƒ vI qy afpy bxfey sMjog vfly qrIky ƒ vI; jo hYrfnI vflI gwl hY. ies lyKk dI qF Aus khfvq vflI gwl lwgdI hY, “gMgf gey qF gMgf rfm, jmnf gey qF jmnf dfs” .
jy sfzI ieh hI socxI hY ik joVIaF qF asmfnf ivwc bxdIaF hn qF iPr asIN lVkI jF lVkf vyKx leI keI-keI GrF ivwc ikAuN Bjy iPrdy hF . ijhVy ivakqI ieh afKdy hn ik joVIaF Duro hI bxIaF huMdIaF hn kI Auh Éud ies gwl qy kfiem rihMdy hn ? kI Auh ijhVf vI pihlf irÈqf lVkI jF lVky vfsqy af igaf awKF mIt ky kr lYNdy hn ? jykr aijhy iswKF ƒ eynf hI XkIn hY qF iPr lVkI vfilaF kolo dfj dI KfihÈ ikAuN rwKdy hn ? sws jF hor irÈqydfrF vwloN nUMh ƒ qMg pryÈfn jF sfiVaf ikAuN jFdf hY ? ivafh dy kuJ mhIny jF sfl ipwCoN hI qlfk ikAuN ho jFdy hn ? kI Aus smyN nhIN socdy ky ieh irÈqf qF rwb ny DuroN ilKky Gwilaf hY ? kI qlfk vI rwb ny pihlF hI iliKaf sI ? kI rwb qlfk ho jfx mgroN iPr sMjog dubfrf ilK dyNdf hY ? kI aijhy lok socdy hn ik pihlf rwb ny glq sMjog ilK idwqy sn ? keI irÈqydfrF ivwc qF lVkI jF lVky df irÈqf nf dyx krky hI lVfeI ho jFdI hY Aus smyN ikAuN nhIN socdy ik irÈqy qF asmfn `qy bxdy hn ? kI aijhy lok sgoN dUsiraF nfloN rwb `qy Gwt XkIn nhIN rwKdy jfpdy, ikAuNik kihMdy kuJ hor hn qy krdy kuJ hor hn . awj sfzy bhuigxqI Drm dy TykydfrF ny gurU dI hËUrI ivwc JUT bolxf aqy mnGVq khfxIaF suxfAuxIaF qF afpxy mn pRcfvy aqy afmdn df qF sfDn hI bxfieaF hoieaf hY. kI gurmiq ies gwl ƒ mMndI hY ik rwb iksy asmfn qy bYTf hY ? ijvyN sfzy ivwc pRcfiraf jFdf hY; pr gurbfxI qF sfƒ soJI dyNdI hY ik akfl purK hr QF mfËUd hY:
qU afip krqf sB isRsit Drqf sB mih rihaf smfie ] Drmrfjf ibsmfdu hoaf sB peI pYrI afie ](m:5, pMnf 406)
jil Qil mhIail riv rihaf dUjf koeI nfih ](m:õ, pMnf ùöñ)
ies qrFH df iswKF ivwc pRcfr krn vfly afp Éud vI DuroN ilwKy sMjog vflI afKI gwl `qy pihrf nhIN dyNdy hn.
gurbfxI ivwc iek cMgy pqI pqnI df myl Aus joVI ƒ afiKaf hY ijhVy dovy jIa iewk dUjy dy ivcfrF ƒ smJdy hox jfinik dohF srIrF ivwc ieko afqmf ho jfvy . gurbfxI ieh nhIN afKdI ik ieh joVI rwb ny bxfeI hY aqy ieh iblkul TIk hY. pVHIey gurbfxI df ieh Èbd:
Dn ipru eyih n afKIain bhin iekTy hoie ] eyk joiq duie mUrqI Dn ipru khIaY soie ](m:3,pMnf ÷øø)
jykr asIN suxIaF-suxfeIaF gwlF dy mgr lwgx nfloN gurmiq anusfr socFgy qF sfƒ gurbfxI dy ies Èbd ivwc afey ‘Dury ilKy sMjog’ dI vI smJ af jfvygI :
ÃÄ siqgur pRsfid] jYsf siqguru suxIdf qYso hI mY zITu ] ivCuiVaf myly pRBU hir drgh kf bsITu ] hir nfmo mMqRü idRVfiedf kty hAumY rogu ] nfnk siqguru iqnf imlfieaf ijnf Dury pieaf sMjogu ] (m: 5, pMnf ùõ÷)
arQ :—siqgurU ijho ijhf suxIdf sI, Auho ijhf ijhf hI mYN (awKIN) vyK ilaf hY, gurU pRBU dI hËUrI df ivcolf hY, pRBU qoN ivwCuiVaF ƒ (muV) pRBU nfl imlf dyNdf hY, pRBU df nfm ismrn df AupdyÈ (jIv dy ihrdy ivc) pwkf kr dyNdf hY (qy ies qrHF Aus df) hAumY df rog dUr kr dyNdf hY .
pr, hy nfnk ! pRBU AuhnF ƒ hI gurU imlfAuNdf hY ijnHF dy BfgF ivc DuroN ieh myl iliKaf huMdf hY.
tIkfkfr: pRo[ sfihb isMG zI ilt
ieh vI vIcfrn vflI gwl hY ik kI iswKF df rwb hor hY aqy bfkI kOmF ijhnf dy keI-keI ivafh huMdy hn AuhnF kOmf jF Drmf df rwb hor hY . afpxy guaFZI Drm ieslfm vwl hI vyK lE, jy DuroN ilKy sMjog vflI gwl mMn leIey qF iPr ieslfm Drm ƒ mMnx vflIaF aOrqf dy iek muslmfn mrd nfl rwb ny cfr aOrqf dy sMjog ilK idqy hn . gurbfxI qF Auhnf df rwb vI AuhI dwsdI hY: ihMdU qurk kf sfihbu eyk ](Bgq kbIr jI, pMnf ññõø)
kI awj ijvyN knyzf jF hor iksy dyÈ vfilaF ny afdmI dI afdmI nfl aqy aOrq dI aOrq (same sex) nfl ÈfdI ƒ pRvfngI dy idwqI hY, kI ieh joVIaF vI rwb ny hI bxfeIaF hn ? jy rwb ny hI bxfeIaF hn qF iPr asIN nf mnjUr krn vfly kOx huMdy hF ?
DuroN ilKy sMjog jF joVIaF qF asmfn ivwc bxdIaF hn ies ivwÈy bfry jdoN mYN afpxy nfl kMm krn vfly gory jF kfilaF bfry socdf hF ik iehnF ivwcoN bhuiqaF dy qF cfr-cfr, pMj-pMj ivafh hoey hn . kI iehnF dy hr sfl jF do sfl bfad rwb sMjog hor ilK dyNdf hY ?
Duro ilKy sMjog df rolf pfAux vfly aqy ÈfdI dy smyN sRI gurU gRMQ sfihb dI hËUrI ivwc ardfs krdy hoey ieh kihx vfly ik “ies joVI dy Duro ilKy sMjogF anusfr jF joVIaF qF asmfn qy bxdIaF hn” jdoN koeI AuhnF dI DI jF BYx ƒ Cwzky jF Cwzx qoN ibnf hI dUjI ÈfdI krvf lYNdf hY qF kI iPr vI ieh mMndy hn ik ieh “sMjog vI Duro ilKy hoey hn jF joVIaF qF asmfn qy bxdIaF hn kI hoieaf jy iesny hor ivafh krvf ilaf qF ?
ieQy iek hor vI svfl pYdf huMdf hY ik jykr iksy dy ivafh dy sMjog jnm smyN (pihlF hI) ilKy jFdy hn qF iPr ijhVf iswK afpxy iswK Drm ƒ Cwzky rfDf svfmI, inrMkfrI, afÈUqoÈ, sody vfly dyhDfrI sfDF dy Drm ivwc cly gey hn jF iksy hor Drm ƒ mMnx lwg pYNdy hn jo sRI gurU gRMQ sfihb ƒ gurU nhIN mMndy, aijhy lokF dy qF ivafh dy sMjog pihlF qF iswK Gr ivwc jnm hox krky iswK lVky lVkI nfl ilKy sn pr hux rwb iPr dubfrf ilKygf ? aijhy bhuq sfry svfl hn jo ies kQnI qy pUrf nhIN Auqrdy . ijvyN iswK rihq mrXfdf ivwc hryk iswK ƒ hdfieq kIqI hoeI hY ik Auh afpxI lVkI lVky df ivafh iswK Grfxy ivwc hI kry .
sRI akfl qKq vwloN pRvfinq iswK rihq mrXfdf dy srlyK ‘anMd sMskfr’ ivwc iliKaf hY:
a) iswK dI puwqrI df ivafh iswK nfl hI hovy.
jykr rwb ny iswK dy lVky jF lVkI dI joVI iksy hor dyÈ jF Drm vfly lVky jF lVkI nfl bxfeI hovygI qF iPr rwb dI bxfeI joVI df kI bxU ?
ipCly sfl 2007 eI: df Èfied nvMbr df mhInf sI. Aus mhIny knyzf dIaF aÉbfrF ivwc Ébr CpI sI ik Bfrq dy iksy pRFq ivwc iewk afdmI ny kuqI nfl ivafh kIqf sI; nfl Aus joVy dI Poto vI sI . kI AuhnF dy vI DuroN ilKy sMjog hoxgy ?
sMsfr dy hor jIvF aqy mnuwKf ivwc ieh Éfs Prk hY ik akfl purK ny mnuwKF ƒ soc-ivcfr krn dI soJI idwqI hY . jykr iensfn AusdI TIk vrqoN kry qF jIvn ivwc muÈklF Gwt jFdIaF hn pr jy hAumYN, hMkfr qy lflc vws ho ky krm krygf qF musIbqF qF afAuxIaF hI hn . ivafh df PYslf krnf qF bhuq vwzI gwl hY; gurbfxI qF sfƒ ieQoN qwk sucyq krdI hY ik jykr iksy loVvMd dI mwdd vI krnI hY qF vI soc-smJky kro. ikqy ieh koeI bihrUpIaf qF nhIN: aklI sfihbu syvIaY aklI pfeIaY mfnu ] aklI piVÙ kY buJIaY aklI kIcY dfnu ] nfnku afKY rfhu eyhu hoir glF sYqfnu ](m:ñ,pMnf ñòôõ)
jdoN asIN iksy BfeI jI (pyÈfvr ardfsIaf) dI afKI gwl ƒ gurmiq anusfr ivcfrn lwg pey ik kI ieh pRcfrk TIk kih irhf hY jF nhI, iPr asIN gurU dI hËUrI ivwc aqy akfl purK awgy ardfs krdy smyN soc smJ ky lÌj afpxy mUMh ivwcoN kwZfgy. muÈkl ieh hY ik asIN joN boldy hF qy krdy hF Aus ivwc Prk hY. gurU sfihb awgy ardfs hor krdy hF aqy socdy aqy krm Ausdy Ault krdy hF. ijs ivwÈy qy gwl krnI huMdI hY, Aus ivwÈy bfry pihlF ivcfr krnI cMgI gwl hY .
drasl ivafh ikhVy Drm, ikhVI-ikhVI irÈqydfrI nfl, ikhVI jfq brfdrI jF bolI afidk nfl krny hn ieh hr Drm, hr ielfky dy vsnIkF dI afpxI-afpxI bxfeI hoeI mrXfdf anusfr huMdy hn. ijvyN pMjfb dy Kfs krky iswKF dI mrXfdf hY ik ieky ipMz dy lVkf lVkI ivwc ivafh nhIN huMdf sI, aqy nF hI ieky pRIvfrk nFa nfl (Family name) . pr hux keI ies gwl dI pRvfh nhIN krdy. hux qF ivdyÈF ivwc afp afAux jF irÈqydfrF ƒ ilafAux Kfqr keI iswK vI afpxy lVky jF lVkI df ivafh afpxy njdIkI irÈqydfrF nfl kr dyNdy hn pr jy AuhI pRIvfr Bfrq ivwc rhy iPr nhIN krdy. awj kwlH qF aÉbfrF ivwc ‘irÈiqaF’ vfly kflm qy bhuqy pRvfrF ny ieh hI iliKaf huMdf hY ik “ isrP AuhI pirvfr sMprk krn jo sfzI lVkI jF lVky Bfrq ivwc rihMdy ƒ knyzf irÈqf krvf skdf hY” . kI hux koeI sMjog ilKx vflf rwb hor af igaf hY ? nhIN; sfrI dunIaF ƒ clfAux vflf rwb (akfl purK) iek hI hY koeI dUjf hor nhIN hY:
srbM sfcf eyku hY dUjf nfhI koie ](m:ñ, pMnf ööú)
sfƒ cfhIdf hY ies qrFH dy pRcfrkF vwloN aijhIaF pRcfrIaF jFdIaF gwlF bfry gurmiq anusfr soc-ivcfr krIey .